Crying?

SFCityDom (c) 2006

I remember the first time a woman cried with me after having sex. We had a rather long and drawn out evening and there was some rope involved. I was a bit taken back by it. I had thought something was wrong. However, it was just that everything was right. She explained that I was the first guy that fucked all of her and not just her pussy, if that makes any sense.

Who enjoys crying? Do you like being manhandled until you cry? Do you cry during or after sex? Is it a good or a bad cry?

Tell me. I want to know?

-Matthew

Comments

[corrine]

I'm not sure I'd say I like crying, but sometimes it's necessary. I've cried during scenes a few times...because it hurt, or because it was so intense. The first time it happened, it happened because it hurt, and I hit that point of total helplessness - that I wanted him to stop, but didn't want him to, and knew that I had asked for this. That love/hate moment of it all. I tried to hide it from him, but of course didn't do a really good job of it. Afterwards, I felt soo calm and relaxed and good...kind of glowy and fuzzy. Sometimes he's intentionally tried to make me cry during a scene, as a way of humiliation. Kind of loved that, too.

[Nae]

I'm late to the party, but I wanted to contribute. There are times when I just crave the catharsis of being pushed to tears. For me, just crying on my own is rarely truly a release. Being pushed to that point, though, that seems just open up and let it all go. That's the full-on sobbing kind of thing. As for tears ... Both T and Sir get very turned on by tears, so I end up there pretty regularly. :)

[kat]

I believe I understand exactly what your partner was going through in that moment. Personally it's not my goal to cry -- it's more like an unavoidable emotional crash when my body has been completely consumed. There is something jarring about going from the intensity of sexual perfection and euphoria, then back into reality. It nearly demands a release of emotion... tears come easily.

[chimaera]

Hello Matthew,

It's been awhile since I've been here, but I saw this question and I felt compelled to respond.

Tears don't come easily to me and there have been times that, in my stubbornness, I refused to cry just because I didn't want to feel as if the dominant had broken me, no matter how much pain he had inflicted. I didn't want to give that to him. That may sound counterproductive to a healthy D/s relationship, but it was early in my exploration of D/s and also early in that particular relationship. I screamed for him, begged for him, debased myself for him, but I never afforded him my tears.

Later, in another D/s relationship, it took the helplessness and futility of bondage to bring on the tears. I was in modified suspension bondage, balanced on the ball of one foot, wrists secured between my shoulder blades, with my hair tethered to a ring high on the wall. The moment I stopped resisting, both mentally and physically, the dam broke and I began to sob uncontrollably. I couldn't stop crying, nor did I want to. It was a relief to finally surrender the pain and fear and tension and to acknowledge he had chiseled away at the wall and had seen the vulnerable little girl inside. It was both terrifying and liberating.

For quite awhile now, more often than not, I cry after I orgasm, whether in a vanilla setting or in submissive mode. I equate it as the emotional component of my orgasm, the sturm und drung of my soul.